Infidelity Focus
Has infidelity impacted your relationship?
Dr. Rogers has helped hundreds of couples heal from the wounds of infidelity. Healing is defined differently for each individual and couple. Teresa will support both individuals to achieve a sense of empowerment, security and strength.
"After the Affair" & "Not Just Friends" as a tools to guide our way.
The books: After the Affair: Health the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner has been Unfaithful by Janis Abrahms-Springs, PhD and/or Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Jean Coppock Staeheli & Shirley Glass can be used to parallel therapy with Dr. Rogers. You will read, reflect and process chapter by chapter through the book. Journal prompts and talking points will be assigned to facilitate individual insight and relational dialogue. Session time will be dedicated to discussion, increasing trust and creating effective communication patterns.
"After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful, by Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., with Michael Spring
After the Affair is a ground-breaking book that walks partners through a healing process after the devastation of an infidelity The first of its kind when it was published in 1996, the open, frank, and insightful thoughts contained in this book still very much hold true for couples today.
Rich with examples from her clinical practice, Dr. Spring has written a comprehensive guide for couples in the aftermath of infidelity - walking them through each stage of recovery. In the first stage, Reacting to the Affair, she empathizes with the likely feelings of the "hurt partner" and the "unfaithful partner" (her language), giving language to, and normalizing, their experiences. In the second stage, Deciding Whether or Recommit or Quit, she helps both members of the couple confront their ambivalence about the relationship and make a thoughtful decision about whether or not to stay. In the third stage, Rebuilding Your Relationship, she reviews strategies and tools to help the couple rebuild trust, intimacy, and get to forgiveness."
"Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Jean Coppocl Staeheli and Shirley Glass.
NOT "Just Friends" is the first book to shatter popular assumptions about infidelity, including: a happy marriage is insurance against infidelity; the betrayed partner must have ignored obvious clues; and the unfaithful partner was compensating for emotional or sexual deprivation in the marriage. Dr. Glass's research not only proves that these are unfounded myths, her surveys of 465 therapists demonstrate that these myths are being perpetuated by ill-advised marriage counselors who are also treating their clients with inappropriate techniques. For instance, many counselors erroneously advise couples to bury the past and avoid discussing the details of the affair after it's discovered-despite research evidence that indicates open discussions about the betrayal are essential to recovery.
Dr. Glass's scientific approach to infidelity is unique in its treatment of the betrayed partner's shock as a trauma. She helps couples cope with post-traumatic reactions and recover from the emotional roller coaster that follows deception, suspiciousness, and the shock of revelation. Refined over decades of clinical counseling, Dr. Glass's practical, step-by-step guide for re-establishing safety and trust in the relationship is central to NOT "Just Friends" and shows how telling the story of the affair and establishing its meaning for both partners can make the union stronger than it was before. Original quizzes by the author allow readers to explore personal traits, relationship characteristics, and outside influences that increase risk and susceptibility to unfaithful behavior. Eye-opening vulnerability maps offer insights that can keep friendships safe and marriages secure.
More than just a book on preventing and recovering from betrayal, NOT "Just Friends" has the profound perspective and guidance that can only come from the extensive clinical experience and meticulous research of a recognized expert. Whether the reader is an involved partner, a betrayed partner, an affair partner-or a therapist who would welcome a proven trauma-based approach to healing infidelity-he or she will find wise, nonjudgmental counsel in this pioneering book."